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“The laborer is worthy of his hire:” and should be made satisfied with his wages.
A few cents often, in addition-at most, a few shillings, would secure a complacence and satisfaction, worth more than all the wages: while from being withheld a discontent is induced that leads to negligence and disregard of duty, by which the employer is an absolute loser. We have known a case where the lady always left the amount of wages to be decided by the servant. Her requirements were stated—her domestics given to understand that their duty must be performed thoroughly and faithfully—and that she was then willing to pay them just what they considered their labor worth. The result was, that her servants were always satisfied, and that she obtained the performance of more labor for less wages than the ma. jority of those who stand to parley for a shilling. In all other departments of labor, the workman finds his profit in the employment, as decidedly as his employer. This should be the case with regard to servants. They should be made to feel it as much for their interests to stay at a good place, as of their employers to retain them.
Attention should be paid to the comfort and acconmodation of do. mestics :-certain privileges allowed them; their rooms furnished with reference to convenience, comfort and cheerfulness; never forgetting that they are appropriated to the use of fellow beings. We are convinced that attention in this particular, to a degree that would give their rooms an air of cheer and comfort, would be felt in the most important results to the mistress of the family. Neat, but plain and unexpensive. furniture would secure this end-often with much less expense than is actually incurred, in connection with a gloomy, comfortless arrangement.
Were the work of a family so ordered and systemized as that all should know what belonged to them, it would add greatly to the usefulness and contentment of domestics. In knowing their duty, and knowing when it is done, they find a great stimulant to diligence, in the effort to secure some time for themselves. But we have known mistresses of families, who could never bear to see their domestics enjoying one moment of leisure-but by whatever exertion of industry they had gained an hour for themselves, would fill it up with some extra service, on the plea that being paid for their time, it was not their own.
There is constant occasion between the mistress and servant for the application of the rule to do unto others as we would they should do unto us. It is profitable in imagination to exchange places and condi. tions with them, to discover what we should desire in the like circum. stances. It makes the greatest possible difference in many cases, whether a decision is for ourselves or another. We can hardly see impartially in a case where self is a party concerned. This is such a one-sided world, that where two interests are contending, “ Judgment is turned away backward, and Justice standeth afar off.”
The practice of hasty and intemperate reproof, known by the comprehensive epithet “scolding," can never be reprobated too severely. Besides degrading the individual who stoops to its use, and destroying all her dignity and title as a lady, it never does any good; but on the
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51 contrary much mischief. Disrespect, obstinacy, and revolt follow in its train. The servant is a severe censurer of such conduct; and though deference may keep her silent, and charity temper her judg. ment, she will at least feel that her mistress acts under the influence of passion, and says that for which she will be sorry and ashamed in a cooler moment.
Forbearance is another virtue which may be exercised here to great profit. Every species of tattling and mischief-making between servants should be discountenanced. Hasty expressions may some. times be uttered that were never intended to reach the ear of the mis. tress, and if they come to the ear, it is oftentimes the part of wisdom to let them fall to the ground. “Take no heed unto all words that are spoken ; lest thou hear thy servant curse thee.”
We have known a system of flattery resorted to as a means of managing servants. Commendation, just appreciation of merit, and reward of duty, are lawful means of influence—but absolute flattery
dangerous. It is ever encroaching, ever demanding in its claims; and like the intoxicating cup, the dose must be increased every day to produce an equal effect. By the incautious use of this agent, we be. come emphatically a servant of servants.
By bearing in mind the claims of our domestics to our sympathies and charities, as members of the same human family, cast by the providence of God upon our justice and benevolence, we shall use the privileges of our station as not abusing them. Use them in promo. ting the best good of those dependent on us :-in improving their minds, strengthening their principles, directing their conduct. We should feel for their trials, watch over their health and morals, and strive to gratify their reasonable and innocent desires. In short, seek to influence them to duty and happiness, by the same means would employ to influence any other fellow-being.
We are sensible that these remarks fall far short of what the im. portance of the subject demands. We offer them in the hope of lead. ing the heads of families to reflect on the subject themselves, and supply in their own practice the deficiency of these hints. We should be thankful for any further suggestions on this subject, from those who have made it a matter of reflection, or successful experiment; as we deem it one of vital importance to the interests of the domestic circle.
ON EDUCATION AS CONNECTED WITH THE AFFECTIONS.No. I.
We-meaning the occupants of this Little World--are no theorists. In our Microcosm we do not profess to copy, be it ever so minutely, all the things of the Great World, much less its world of speculations. It is enough for our purpose, if we present to our readers, miniature representations of nature and truth, without troubling our heads about other possibilities or impossibilities. We have, therefore, no sympathy for
those, who are anxious for a solution of the query, whether the minds of the sexes are not originally equal and alike in their capacities and tastes—and all the difference observed be not attributable solely to the different modes of education of the two classes. For ourselves, we hope this question may ever remain as unsettled as now. The destinations of the two sexes are originally different.
“For contemplation he and valor formed,
For softness she and sweet attractive grace." We are aware that this quotation is a hackneyed one: but we hope to be excused for again making use of it, because, in our apprehension, its import is not sufficiently attended to either by young ladies themselves, or by those who have charge of them, qualifying them to fill the sta. tions which their mothers now occupy.
We allude to the too great prominence given, in female education, to the physical and exact scien. ces. This seems to us too close an imitation of, not to say an enchroach. ment on the rights and privileges of the other sex. To encroachment and imitation we are equally opposed; for an attempt at either is an evidence of dissatisfaction with our destiny. Not more preposterous would be the attempt to imitate gentlemen in outward adornment than in inward culture. Suppose then, for the sake of consistency, a lady should be shorn of her rich tresses,—nature's peculiar ornament-and should likewise exchange the dress in which she floats with so much loveliness, for the habliment of a well-dressed gentleman, in order to try the experiment, whether she would not, by this process of assimilation, appear more respectable and more enviable in the eyes of community. For ourselves, however, we wish to be spared such a spectacle of ambition. The characteristic of the affections is truly that the most becoming to ladies. Thus thinks Mrs. Jameson, or she would not have so excelled in its portraiture. Such high authority who will gainsay? Now it is very much doubted whether the cold abstractions of the exact sciences tend to cultivate this characteristic, or in any way to make ladies as they should be, the more agreeable companions. A gentleman, with whom the editor of this work is ac. quainted, relates that not many moons since he passed an evening with a young lady who had just completed her education at one of our most respectable female seminaries, and who stood very deservedly high for her attainments in science, On the table in her sitting room lay one volume only,-an algebra,—two or three of the abstrusest problems of which, she said, were occupying her thoughts when his entrance was announced. The evening was one of those illumined by a moon of such peculiar brilliance as we sometimes witness at the close of summer or the commencement of autumn, and the house was situated where it had command of one of the most romantic prospects to be found in New. England ;-such as ought never to be viewed save when moon-light or storms are resting upon them. During a pause in the conversation, the gentleman was drinking deep of the spirit of the scene that lay before him so that his senses began to reel and become confused with ad. miration when he was perfectly sobered on hearing the lady say, that she could not endure moonlight evenings because the stars were eclipsed, and she took pleasure in contemplating the heavens only when
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53 she could trace out the constellations! He, in desire “not loud bat deep," in his first emotions of petulance, wished her, her algebra, and the constellations including the whole host of Bears, Lions, Giants, Dragons and Scorpions, removed into Milton's “far off Limbo," though he would very fervently welcome the lady's return provided she were freed from such troublesome companions. To cultivate powers of conversation,-rich, varied and refined, should be a main object in female education. When gentlemen seek relief, in ladies' society, from severe toils we are assured they would not feel very much indebted to them for a chemical lecture on the properties of air, nor, indeed for all the minute information of the Laboratory. In this remark we except, of course, the amusing digressions of Yale's accomplished Chemical Professor, which afford to us confirmation strong that he also thinks it possible to have too much attention given to physi. cal science. Deeming it probable, that the useful might furnish some compensation for the loss of the agreeable, we have tried the experiment frequently to ascertain whether puddings and pies taste any better, when made with an adequate knowledge of what is mechanical, and what chemical in the composition of their ingredients, than before. But such, to our experience has not been the fact. It is 10 be hoped that these remarks may not be construed as intending to advocate the entire exclusion of the exact sciences, from a system of female education. No: Let ladies cultivate Mathematics, Mechanics an Metaphysics as much as they will; only let them do it in entire subserviency to that species of literature, which tends immediately to cultivate the imagina. tion, feelings and taste.
We have admitted the above article without coinciding in sentiment with the writer. We cannot conceive how mental culture in any view can be construed into “imitation" or "encroachment.” It is simply informing the mind by inves. tigation of the subject before it. In principle and effect it is one. There may, and probably will be many cases of pedantry and affectation : but this is less likely to result from too much than too little knowledge. We find it almost invariably connected with superficial attainments and weak intellect. A Mary Woolstoncraft and a Frances Wright may occasionally appear on the stage ; but we know every woman of sense and delicacy is as ready as the gentleman can possibly be to censure and condemn them. Women generally, are not disposed to encroach upon the privileges of gentlemen ;--and if the above writer knew to how limited a degree the physical sciences were at present admitted into female education, he would not be alarmed for the consequences. Greater attention to the more solid branches of education, particularly the study of Mathematics, has been considered, by those who have thought wisely and deeply on this subject all important as a necessary ballast to the mind.
Again, if in cultivating the imagination and feelings, the writer would substitute light literature for sober science, we cannot agree with him. There is altogether too great a predominance of the former in female education. Imagination is already cultivated and indulged to the bane of the mind; and a remedy is loudly demanded. Even some of those " cold abstractions” may be invaluable if they operate to cor. rect and temper an excess of imagination :--and we believe experiment has ever proved that those who are most logical and exact in their views of things, are also most deep and ready in their social sympathies and affections.
BY BERNARD BARTON, Esq.
Nay, tell me not, my dearest,
That Time hath dimm'd thine eye;
As in days that are gone by.
By sorrows, cares, and fears;
By the clouds of darker years.
I could forgive each theft;
And its love for me was left.
I, too, am something older
Than when I met with thee;
If they are what hearts should be.
As years have o'er me past,
When my brow has been o'ercast ;-
In cheek, or brow, or hair,
Must be lighter far than air.
Though morning's early splendor
May rapture's thrill impart,
Sinks still deeper in the heart.
And summer skies are clear,
The rich harvest of the year.
Inspires no thought of gloom,
Hopes of spring beyond the tomb.
VISIT TO A NEW MARRIED COUPLE.
(Concluded from page 41.] “ The evening at the Castle, was spent very pleasantly; the young girls of the village were prettily dressed in white with pink ribbons and straw hats, the young men in blue, and they formed a rustic dance on the lawn to pleasant music ; refreshments were placed under the trees, that were hung with colored lamps; and the company, now become very numerous, walking about in gay groups, had a particularly pleasing effect. One party that were much sheltered from observation soon